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And eventually, as we learn a new Blueprint we EXPAND into that Blueprint.

We also can learn to SPEAK each other’s languages. 'Here is an opportunity that as we HEAL, we also feed our Blueprints so that we are not depleted and starving, and also to FEED our lover’s Blueprints which is a skill we can learn to do. 'We need to heal the shadow aspects of our Blueprints that put the brakes on our arousal,' she explains. Jaiya breaks down this journey into four phases: Healing, Feeding, Speaking and Expanding. The participants just have to be willing to journey through the doing the work to speak one another’s arousal language. Like with any skill, it can be honed on and improved upon. Speaking or being fluent in one language doesn’t mean you can’t become fluent or learn to speak another. In fact, if you find that your Erotic Blueprint type(s) differs from your partner’s, it’s not the end of the world or the relationship. What’s beautiful about this arousal map framework is that there isn’t necessarily an ideal match.

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How to Navigate Different Erotic Blueprint Types In order to speak their language, Jaiya advises, “Play with more tease, light touch on the body and with consciously giving more spaciousness for ‘turn on’ to turn into begging for more.” Slow and steady wins the race for the Energetic type. Hypersensitivity can cause them to ‘short-circuit’ and become turned off because it is too much sensation, too fast and their arousal system shuts down.” Their superpower is that they are very sensitive to the point of being able to orgasm without being touched. The Energetic Erotic Blueprint type “is turned on by anticipation, space, tease, and longing. Think about the five blueprints and notice, during sexual play or based on your history, where things line up for you.”īelow, Jaiya provides insights into each Erotic Blueprint type, their respective superpowers (pros), and their shadow sides or aspects (cons). Jaiya also says you should “listen to what your body likes and doesn’t like. To learn your primary type, take the basic quiz here. The Erotic Blueprints are comprised of five types: energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky, and shapeshifter. It’s often the final frontier of personal growth.” On healing from attachment issues, Jaiya says, “It gives us permission to be ourselves and love ourselves, and sex is one of those places where we often judge, criticize, and shame. In our adult relationships, we often seek the things that we lacked from parents and caretakers in our childhood. Therein lies the healing capabilities of this work. When we honor another person, they feel seen, heard, and deeply loved for who they are,' she adds. The framework in relationships is so transformative because “when we know ourselves and we know another more deeply, we are able to really honor who we are and who another is in that moment in time. In that way, Erotic Blueprints are rooted in so much more than sex. “When we don’t have a language or teaching on how to uncover what turns us on, we stay stuck in shame and guilt, and silence around sex.” “When we don’t know what turns us on, we don’t know how to ask for it,” she explains.

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Jaiya says the end result is surface-level experiences that don’t even crack the surface of how powerful our solo and partnered sex lives can truly be. There is sometimes a mind-body-soul disconnect we experience due to a lack of knowledge of our true selves that can lead to discontentment in the self-relationship and our intimate relationships. When we are living our pleasure, we are no longer at odds with life and there is a whole new level of satisfaction in all of life, not just in the bedroom.' “When you expand into who you really are you can own your pleasure. Jaiya, award-winning somatic sexologist and creator of the Erotic Blueprints, says they are an arousal map to more pleasure, more understanding, deeper connection, and deeper satisfaction. Similar to the way love languages and apology languages are important tools in how we communicate and understand intimacy, Erotic Blueprints can be transformative to one’s self-relationship as well as their relationship with others. But what if you could apply language to the way you approach intimacy in sexual relationships and self-pleasure? Well, there is power in the tongue and, turns out, there’s power in learning what your Erotic Blueprint type is, too. Sexual needs differ, sexual incompatibility comes into play, and sometimes the inability to communicate what those needs and differences are can lead to frustration, lack of satisfaction, and overall lack of intimacy. And though that can spell instant sexual chemistry and orgasms galore for some, sexual intimacy in solo sex and partnered sex is something we have to work at more times than not.

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When it comes to sex and self-pleasure, we typically rely on trial and error to discover what feels good.

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